Believing in yourself is not easy. It’s hard to believe in yourself, let alone others, with all the judgments, standards and expectations we hold ourselves up to. It’s as if we’re always trying to put ourselves in a box.
Why is it so hard to believe in yourself? Is it because you let yourself down too many times? Or do you feel guilty about some aspect of yourself that you can’t accept? Maybe it’s because you’re focusing so hard on trying to get where you’re going that you’re missing the entire experience. The journey is meant to be enjoyed—if you’re not present for the duration, it’s like self-sabotage.
Everything you focus on in life is based on your beliefs. If you can’t believe in yourself, there’s no way you can believe in others. If you feel like you can’t believe or trust in people anymore, chances are that’s what your soul is saying to you. The people in our life are mirrors for us to see deeper within ourselves and to reflect all that we cannot accept or come to terms with.
Believing in oneself is an act of nobility, recognition, acknowledgment and most importantly, love. Ever since you were a child, everything you did, no matter what it was or how you did it, was not important. What mattered was if someone believed in you while you did it. Did you get the support system that you needed? The love and nurturing, coupled with the big “YES, YOU CAN!” We all want and need to hear this every day from our friends, loved ones, coworkers or boss.
Not everyone had that support growing up. I personally did not. I was actually told the opposite—that life is hard, I wasn’t good enough, I would be a failure and if I wanted something out of life I would have to work for it. Definitely not life support—rather, it was a sure way to end a life.
Whether or not you experienced this type of upbringing, on some level we’ve all experienced doubt, insecurity and self-sabotage. Some people have dreams that they never fulfill because they don’t believe in themselves. They’re still waiting on someone to tell them those three magic words—“Yes, you can.” So they set up relationships with people that are about seeking approval and wanting to be good enough, and when they don’t get it, they beat themselves up and act out in dysfunctional ways towards themselves and others.
That’s the real abuse—when we treat ourselves or others like dirt because we don’t feel good deep down inside. It’s a cosmic roller coaster—one day you’re up, the next day you’re down and it’s all based on your belief or lack thereof. Think of the countless times that you set up relationships for the mere purpose of learning to love and believe in yourself. You ask Source to send people into your life who don’t believe in you, and do this over and over until it makes you sick and you realize that they are full of cow manure. Then you have to fight your way back from the hordes of friends and family members who doubt you, until you’re completely clear with who you are.
Think of how many relationships you lose in the process of learning to believe in yourself. What if there was a much simpler way, one that helps you down the road to getting your power back? There is—all you have to do is say to yourself, “Yes, you can” every time you feel doubt or fear. Say it over and over, “Yes, you can. Yes, you can. Yes, you can.” Finish it off with, “I believe in you.”
If you don’t believe in you, how do you think you will believe in Source? Becoming your own greatest supporter will change everything for you. It only takes one person to believe in you for you to change the world. Why don’t you be that person? I know you can.