To live in our core power, we must seek truth in ourselves and others—meaning we must be honest all the time. The little white lie easily becomes the big, bad, ugly one. Just when you think you have gotten away with it by brushing it off or hiding it in what I call a “ninja-attack” joke, that lie finds its way back to look you dead in the eye. At some point, you must choose to live in truth or continue sending out lies.
What is a lie, really? A lie can be anything from a straight up, in-your-face denial or complete fabrication, to some redirection of the truth or half-story that enables you to avoid responsibility in that moment. Think how much happier Tiger Woods would feel if he told the press from the get-go that, “Yes, I like lots of women and I love to play golf.” How many people, including himself, would have been left out of harm’s way if he lived his truth? He probably thought he was protecting himself from judgment and reinforcing his all-American, cookie cutter image. In the long run, the very thing he was trying to avoid smacked him in the face. Clearly, he did not escape his fear.
What about people who lie to themselves repeatedly about their myriad issues? Or the ones who worry their significant other is cheating on them, when in reality, they’re the ones straying? There are the alcoholics who hide from others when they’re hitting the bottle or those who promise to quit smoking when they have no intention of stopping. Or those who profess, “I love my job,” when in reality they’re staring at the clock. There are so many possible lies. Yet when you lie and force yourself to believe it, from that moment on, you’re a slave to that lie. You have to lie again and again to keep up the charade. What a lot of work to deal with! Why not just tell the truth and be free from any type of bondage?
People are afraid that the moment they tell the truth, they will have to face their issues and do the work. That means dealing with whatever comes up—the fear, the guilt and then some. Yes, it may hurt, but when you put an end to the B.S., you save yourself from the endless game of passive-aggressive or aggressive lies. When you continue to lie, the worry and guilt never goes away completely—you’re always desperately trying to cover your tracks. Just because no one calls you out on your lies today doesn’t mean they won’t tomorrow. When you live your truth and do the work, the pain is temporary and results in you feeling empowered and energized.
A wise man once said, “The truth will set you free.” The next time you’re about to tell a lie, stop yourself and say, “I’m ready to be more responsible. I stand for truth no matter what the consequence may be.” You will feel an amazing sense of liberation. Sure, some of your friends or loved ones may get mad at you, but your soul will be very happy. That simple act will make both yourself and others believe in you.
Be true to yourself and everyone in your life. You will be a happier and more grounded human being. Life will feel good and you will attract trusting, loving people who will stand by your word any day. Remember, you are powerful beings. Keep challenging yourselves to greatness.