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GROUNDED GUIDANCE: DON'T BE A HATER

Welcome back, spiritual warriors of truth. I’m glad you’re sharing this journey of spiritual development with me and absorbing new ideas for everyday living. The very fact that you read this article every other week is monumental. It means that some aspect of yourself, big or small, wants to grow and reach new, enlightened levels of power. You rock!

Welcome back, spiritual warriors of truth. I’m glad you’re sharing this journey of spiritual development with me and absorbing new ideas for everyday living. The very fact that you read this article every other week is monumental. It means that some aspect of yourself, big or small, wants to grow and reach new, enlightened levels of power. You rock!
It’s cool nowadays to be in touch with spiritual tools and to be able to access them for friends and loved ones—it’s like you’re a spiritual handyman or handywoman. Yet one thing I think we need to work on is jealousy. It’s like a thorn that doesn’t go away. While some people act like it doesn’t exist and claim to never feel it, they do. Don’t be fooled—people often disguise it with comparisons or gossip, while others simply can’t be happy for you when your life turns golden and something makes you happy or moves you forward. You may get a half-baked smile or a “Good for you” in a solemn voice.

Who are they fooling? Don’t get me wrong when I say this—I’m sure they are a little bit happy for you. The problem is, they can’t stop focusing on what they haven’t achieved and need to either find something wrong with themselves or with you, which totally takes them out of the flow of good energy and brings in the sad clowns. What is wrong with shouting out good news and sharing your joy? We have no problem listening to countless hours of doom and gloom from friends, loved ones and the media. You don’t see people saying, “I’m so jealous—they’re having all that bad stuff happen to them. Why can’t I get some?”

Why is it when good news is shared we get self-conscious about who we can tell and worry that others will think we’re bragging? I say, get full of yourself as long as you don’t use to it to bring yourself up and others down. There’s nothing more irritating than a person who feeds off others’ failures and boasts about their success only so they can feel powerful. It’s morally unjust and downright high school—it gets a capital “F” for foolish.

We are here to inspire people and lift them up. When we lift others up, then they lift others—it’s like paying it forward. Can you imagine what it would be like if everyone had this mentality and wanted to help others reach their dreams? Oh, what a world this would be. If we chose to overcome jealousy and not try to outshine others to feel better about ourselves, the shift would be amazing. More people would share good news about day-to-day living instead of drama-for-your-mama babble.

How do you know if you have jealousy issues? First, notice when someone around you has something good happen. What do you feel? Are you truly happy for them? Do want to shout, clap and celebrate with them? Or do you focus on what you’re doing or what you do or don’t have? Do you feel sad, angry or complacent? If you answered “yes” to those last two questions, chances are you’re experiencing jealousy. What if you like to triumph others with your success, wealth, body or intelligence? You feel like you’re the best. Yay for you! If you’re that person, it’s OK. All it means is that you’re not connecting to your true source of happiness.

The good news is, if you’re the jealous type, you can change. Don’t be discouraged. Practice saying to others, “You deserve it.” Applaud them and give them a hug. Then tell yourself that dreams do come true for everyone. It may feel cheesy, but it works. When you feel like you’re better than others, remind yourself that when you think like that, you lose touch with life.

Spend more time helping others and lifting them up. If you have success, share it. Instead of feeding off others’ failures, you’ll be filled with love and gratitude. It’s all about less jealousy, and more love and gratitude. Always celebrate you. Blessings, dear ones.