We all came from source, and source is perfect, so that makes us all fabulous. While you arrived in perfect form, on some level, your family believed in a distorted truth—a misconception one of your ancestors did not clear or bring into balance and then passed down to you. This shaped and molded you in some way, even if it was not spoken directly to you. We are emotional beings, so as children, we absorb everything from those around us. You felt your parents’ pain and disappointment, as well as their joy and happiness, and accepted their beliefs. Everything was recorded in your subconscious mind.
Why do we accept false programs from our parents, teachers and peers, when even as children we know the truth? It’s because we are loyal to those we believe are meant to protect us and show us the way. We accept their fears about life and take their direction on the path they want to follow, instead of our desired path. It’s all very conditional and is affected by repetition. If you hear something so many times, you start to believe it.
Here’s the catch, folks—whatever you believe, on any level of your being, will then be created for you by source. If you believe in the Santa Claus theory of naughty-or-nice, that’s cute, but then why do those who do so much good have the worst luck, while others who are selfish and self-centered have it all? We’re not slaves to some ego-based creator who rewards and punishes us. We are responsible for what we create through our beliefs and reactions to life.
Here is some food for thought: forgiveness is bullshit fakeness and keeps you stuck in being “right.” To truly liberate the past, you must step into acceptance. What this means is you must accept whatever has happened in life—even if it sucked. For years, I forgave my father and stepmother for the pain and abuse they put me through. But, even after they apologized, I was still angry.
Only after lengthy soul-searching and deep meditation did I discover that I was buying into a ritual created by a system that does not work. So I asked spirit to give me the truth. I realized I could never truly forgive my father and stepmother for the pain they inflicted on me. However, I could accept that it happened and make a conscious choice to give them a clean slate and accept them for how they act now. Doing so releases us all to grow and move forward. If I try to “forgive,” I’m making someone right and another wrong. That process keeps you stuck in duality, which distorts the truth.
Here is a task for you: think about every person who hurt you or caused you pain and tell yourself to accept them and their wrongdoing. It happened, it was real and it sucked. Cry, laugh, shout—and then move the fuck on. Tell yourself out loud, “I can now create new experiences!” If, by chance, your mind defers to any belief from the past, then say, “It’s the past and that’s where it belongs. I’m in the now.”
Every time you embark on something and your mind reverts to old feelings, doubts or insecurities, just say those words. You will clear the cords and become free to move forward and start an exciting exploration of life. Life is filled with hurt and pain, as well as laughter, joy, pleasure and all the rest. Stop trying to avoid life and simply take a risk and live. That’s why you’re here. Destiny is not dictated by chance—it’s created by the choices you make.